• Ahornygirl@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    Sounds like a lot of self reflection happened this week. Good luck with the changes in your life! Fuck anyone who shames you, they’re not worth your time 🙂

    I have always found it strange how women can shame penis size. We’re constantly judged ourselves for never being perfect enough, you’d think there’d be a bit more empathy.

    It’s easier though, when the red flags are shown up front, so you know to walk away before making any serious time investment. Just don’t take it to heart, because it’s a reflection of them, not you.

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      1 year ago

      Sounds like a lot of self reflection happened this week. Good luck with the changes in your life! Fuck anyone who shames you, they’re not worth your time 🙂

      Thank you, and exactly! When I was in my twenties, this stuff used to hurt me much more. I’m not sure if it’s age or experience, but I’m giving less fucks about things as I get older. The world isn’t going to collapse because my x isn’t y or whatever. Especially dating - I’m more interested in someone liking me for the nerdy self that I am rather than any sexual prowess. That was the penny-dropping moment that really made me seal the deal and make these changes in my life.

      I have always found it strange how women can shame penis size. We’re constantly judged ourselves for never being perfect enough, you’d think there’d be a bit more empathy.

      Honestly it’s both men and women. It’s society - the same one that shames women for having “too many” sexual encounters (???) and men for not having enough. It’s all a load of bollocks to be honest, and I’m glad I’m a place mentally to not give it much mind.

      It’s easier though, when the red flags are shown up front, so you know to walk away before making any serious time investment. Just don’t take it to heart, because it’s a reflection of them, not you.

      Could not have said it better myself!!

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        1 year ago

        You’re absolutely right, once you hit your 30s you stop giving a shit, you realise that the most important thing is your own wellbeing and mental health. I’m fairly new around here, but I love how supportive the male centered spaces are.

        Definitely keep being your nerdy self, nerdy guys are the best 🥰

        And keep sharing pictures because they’re great!

    • dazedandconfused@lemmynsfw.com
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      1 year ago

      It takes a magic combination of a man and woman, their chemistry, biology, and state of mind for many women to orgasm vaginally from a penis. Mouths, hands, and toys seem way more effective to me anyway :-)

      • Ahornygirl@lemmynsfw.com
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        1 year ago

        I can cum vaginally, but I need lots of oral play first (suck my clit and I’ll fall into another dimension 😋) There’s also a different feeling for both kinds of orgasm, so they’re both great in their own way. The real fun is in exploring though, trying something new to see what works. Orgasms aren’t always the most important part of sex, being intimate with someone and having fun together is equally rewarding.