• vithigar@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    Both can be true.

    When you’re cultivating a relationship with a real person their wants and desires also factor into your choices, assuming you aren’t a psychopath. They will want different things from you, and keeping that to themselves and never pushing back just makes them miserable and builds resentment. Similarly, you don’t want to impose unreasonable expectations on them. Whether that’s related to their behaviour or their appearance, no one can reasonably expect to get exactly what they want 100% of the time, and that’s part of a healthy relationship.

    …but if you’re constructing an artificial partner from a blank slate that’s completely bespoke to you, to choose anything other than an idealized match for all your desires is frankly insane, and to pretend otherwise is simply disingenuous.

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      I got sooooo lucky and just found a copy of me. That’s not what everyone wants, but they’re exactly the perfect match for me. We’re together 24/7 and have been for over a decade. No fights. I wish the same success for everyone who deserves it (everyone who isn’t a piece of shit)!

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    1 year ago

    Haha yes! I also think that public praise of healthy, stable personalities and realistic body standards is insincere grandstanding.

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      Especially when it’s demanded of you. I work with teenagers and they will publicly support whatever is expected by teachers and others who wants to hear it, then turn around and say Andrew Tate is completely right about women. It’s like muslims. Biggest booze hounds I’ve ever seen but will still judge other muslims for drinking.

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    I predict that once robotics and AI advanced beyond some particular threshold, human-on-human relationships will be seen as strange and needlessly fetishistic. Who would want some grimey partner with their own needs when you can generate an infinitely moldable soulmate?

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      1 year ago

      Have you ever used cheat codes in games?

      Sometimes dealing with imperfections and adversity is vastly more enjoyable than getting everything you think you want.

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        1 year ago

        You say that and yet almost any competitive online game is rife with cheaters, while single player games have tons of easily available trainers and god mode mods.

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        You would think so, wouldn’t you? But how is it any different than fast food, porn, or trash tv?

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          you don’t make your own fastfood, porn or trash tv. so it’s like, completely different. being able to mold your partner doesn’t assume a quick process and shallow results.

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            You don’t make your own robot lover either. You do select it, same as you select your fast food order, porn video, and TV channel.

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        I strongly disagree. Cheat codes provided infinite possibilities in an otherwise static game. The only reason don’t use cheat codes today is because they evolved into sandbox mode, console commands, and mods. And trust me, Skyrim would be long dead without those.