• @[email protected]
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    431 month ago

    The only right answer is:

    “I mean she’s not my top pick of your friends for a threesome, but if you can’t talk Ashley into it then yeah I guess she’s fine.”

  • @[email protected]
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    411 month ago

    The honest one. And if that doesn’t go down well, get the hell out of there. Just being asked is already a massive red flag and I doubt things would be lasting much longer from my side of things.

    • @VirtualOdour
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      Yeah, I don’t think being asked is a problem in the context of conversation but if it’s a trap kinda question then you need to be talking about her insecurity not her hot friends

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        Actually you just need to be giving completely honest answers. If she can just handle them without issue then she doesn’t have much insecurity, just curiosity.

    • @AlecSadler
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      Seriously. My wife asks me if random people are objectively attractive or hot or whatever all the time, it’s basically just conversation fluff. It doesn’t matter how I answer because she isn’t jealous or anything, again, just conversation fluff.

      Well, sometimes it matters if I say, “no that person is really weird looking” and she’s like, “whaaaat why?”. But then it’s just funny.

  • southsamurai
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    “Not as hot as you, obviously.”

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    I’d say not to waste your time on girls who play these kinds of games. That’s a weird question to ask your S.O. no matter how you swing it.

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      Not always My gf is bi and will actively send me pictures of models of characters calling them hot and asking if I think they are It’s pretty nice to have a gf that you can actively call people hot too

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        I’m bi and every relationship I’ve had was like this. Drooling over people and characters together is just something I like to do in relationships. It’s a fun bonding activity. Plus it’s weirdly good for my self confidence for somebody to be drooling over somebody else who even I know is hot as fuck but they still clearly want to be with me more.

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        Bit of a difference when you’re in some sort of open relationship. I was more thinking maybe closeted cuckquean but even then it’d be a stupid thing to do.

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          Why does everyone in straight society act like closed relationships are normal and have to make an exception for poly relationships? That’s so weird.

          Also I’m not in an open relationship if you think open relationship means what I think it means.

          • @where_am_i
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            Statistics, original meaning of a romantic relationship?

            It’s been called open marriage or open relationship for a reason. Because the default assumption was it’s not. There’s even that weird term “cheating”.

            Everyone acts like monogamous relationships are normal because they are. And polyamorous relationships are an exception. You’ll have to deal with it.

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              They shouldn’t. Lots of people don’t even know polyamoury is an option, and they’re groomed from early childhood to understand relationships as exclusive and to get jealous. That’s a toxic culture. It’s okay to have complicated and difficult feelings, that’s part of being human, but it’s not okay to pressure children into sharing those feelings as they get older.

          • DarkThoughts
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            Because they are? The absolute majority of all relationships are monogamous. How is that even a question? lol Do you go about this when trying to date too? Do you just not say that you want to fuck around with other people, expecting them to just accept it anyway? Because that’s called cheating. If you want to have a non monogamous relationship, then you have to make that clear right from the start, discussing all boundaries that come with it to which both / all partners can agree upon. Anything else, again, makes you a cheater.

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              What the everliving fuck. Of course I ask all my partners to give consent before I add someone new to my polycule. Every single time. Do you add new people to your polycule without consulting your partners just because they’re polyamorous? That’s cheating.

              I don’t have to “tell” my partners I’m poly, because I don’t cheat. If you think you can just tell your partners you’re poly and then date whoever you want, you’re wrong and that’s a dangerous belief. Please never tell anyone else that polyamoury works like that, because it doesn’t. I’ve had to educate far too many partners who thought like you and would have cheated on me if I hadn’t been careful to establish explicit boundaries.

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                Congrats on completely avoiding the point I was making. You’re outright telling someone you’re poly, because you know the expectation is that you’re not, because it isn’t the norm.

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                  No, I’ve actually only ever had two partners who were monoamorous by default. The first two. Everyone afterwards immediately knew I was poly without having to be told. And was poly too. I mean I would have asked them to consent to being metamours with all my existing partners anyway so definitely no cheating since you brought that weird point up. But if you’re now deciding the point is people’s assumptions, everyone I know assumes people are poly. If someone in my circles is monoam they actually have it listed in their bio so everyone knows not to flirt with them.

                  Sounds like I just have gayer friends than you do and you’re assuming everyone is like your boring friends.

                  Do you even have any otherkin friends?

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                  Decent point, but I also think it’s good to explicitly discuss monogamy as well. Even if you don’t use that word but only say “are we in a relationship”, it’s good to define the moment when the exclusivity begins.

                  For example I’ve had one date with a woman, and she was busy on my second attempt. I’d love to see her again but I’m unsure whether I will. Would I be a cheater if I went on a date with another woman right now?

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            31 month ago

            Because that’s the social and societal norm. Regardless of how progressive a lot of the issues have been/are.

    • @[email protected]
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      61 month ago

      In my unfortunate experience, chicks who are jealous and play these games will also cheat on you.

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    My wife asked me if I thought an actress on television was pretty, I simply told her they don’t put ugly people on tv

    • @0x4E4FOP
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      Also safe AF 👍.

      From my experince, any answer that doesn’t directly confirm or deny is a safe answer.

  • ivanafterall
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    “Thank GOD, I was hoping I wasn’t the only one who noticed! I’ve been dying over here trying not to say anything.”

  • @VirtualOdour
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    Yeah she’s hot but not as dirty in bed as you

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      Good come back 👍. She might even try hader!

    • @0x4E4FOP
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      Good 👍. A lot of long complicated words in there! Leaves room for interpritation!