• Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    4 days ago

    I will never understand not caring about being wanted, desired, or loved.

    The most special feeling in life was knowing someone loved me deeply for being kind and loving. The biggest loss in life was losing that. I miss her every day, it’s such a rare kind of love.

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      Because this is what you get when a civilization holds onto dead and dying ways of thinking for way too long.

      The need for loveless marriage for physical, material, and political reasons is dead. It died over 200 years ago. But we never stopped trying to make it a thing. We grew up on the idea that love was something that just happens and isn’t something that takes a lot of time and work to create. I see it in a lot of my friends who struggle with relationships. My male or individuals that take on the traditional masculine role seem to think simply proving material things and enjoying some of the same hobbies is all it takes to be loved. Nah, it’s much deeper than that.

      I’ve also dated women who want the relationship to always feel like butterflies and hallmark commercials. We just don’t give honest depictions and expectations for what love is. It’s a major problem. Along with financial, environmental, and political issues it’s no wonder marriage and birth rates are falling. But conservatives think reintroducing women suffrage will somehow reverse the trend.

      All they’ll get is more Lorena Bobbitt situation and missing women cases.