DAE Feel the Urge to Connect with an Old Friend Again but at the Same Time Feel Afraid/Relunctant? What do you do in these cases?
Sometimes an old friend randomly pops up in my mind and the thought of catching up with them feels good. But at the same time it feels overwhelming, like I’m stepping out of bounds of some sorts.
Side Note: I’m using Jerboa for Lemmy and I’m not able to do text posts, hence the gorgeous Across the Spider-Verse image. How do I do a text post?
The good news is that research shows that if you do reach out you’ll very likely receive a warm reception. So, give it a try!
At my age, this has happened more times than I care to admit. With some people, it’s like no time passed at all, and everything is great.
With others, it has become very evident why we lost touch.
I haven’t discovered a way of seeing who is what type without just trying to reconnect and seeing what happens.
Well put. Good friends are the ones you can talk to without skipping a beat whether it’s been a month or a year.
Yeah. Mostly I don’t go through with it because I don’t want the drama or baggage that will inevitably show up. I’ve got enough on my plate without having to be someone’s therapist, mover, or some other kind of free labor.
I have thought this many times for different people. But an image comes in my head of the two of us standing awkwardly away from each other not knowing what to say or do. Me feeling guilty for not trying to reach out earlier than I did.
Thought of a friend today when I heard a song, got a text from friend I haven’t heard from in maybe a year, he’s in town and we’re grabbing drinks because he heard a song and thought of me too. Life be doing life
Just leave the image line blank for a txt post.
And yes that’s a very natural feeling, particularly for introverts. I’ve always found its better to push past it and reach out anyway.
The only reason why I don’t reach out is because the conversation just goes nowhere… Once you update each other on your life, the conversation just dies in an awkward way (for me anyway)
Yes! I did this. I fell apart from my friend group when I married. I was a few years ahead of the others when committing…anyways, I focussed on work and building wealth to help with ease of living later on. I’d keep in contact with my friends loosely via Facebook. After about 9 years I noticed one friend had stopped wishing me happy birthday and Christmas which was just something we did. 3 years later of the same thing I reached out to other people to see if he was ok…got lots of dead ends, old stories of arguments he had had…found his sister that had kind of estranged herself from her family and married and changed her name and moved to the opposite coast. She passed my number onto him and told me he was doing ok. Later on, he reached out and we had a good chat and planned to meet up. This happened just after the first major wave of covid. We met for about 4 hours and he talked about himself the whole time. Not once asked me about me and my family, how I was doing… haven’t spoken since. Your mileage may vary
