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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • If English were one of the hardest languages to learn, it would not be the most common second language worldwide. It is a difficult language to master, but we barely conjugate verbs, have only remnants of a case system, and no grammatical gender.

    The hardest parts about English are the spelling and the advanced weird cases, like “I will have done that by tonight,” but those are not things that the standard language learner has to care about. It’s perfectly fine to ignore all the rules that don’t inhibit communication, so no ESL speaker needs to learn about not splitting infinitives or ending sentences with prepositions (unless they want to do academic writing in the arts, I guess).




  • I don’t think it’s funny to make jokes about someone in front of them and not explain it.

    My guess is number two (that you’re a part of the drama that Zwiebel wants to get rid of), though tbh it could just be that they meant the words “hates” and “slams,” not “smorty”




  • I saw that episode as a 17 year old who had not yet gotten my period from a family of women who got it like clockwork before their twelfth birthdays. I freaked out because I knew that that had to be my issue, and I felt really awkward about telling my dad.

    Gee, it would have been nice if it had occurred to me then, that the big problem most cis people would have with finding that out would not be an awkward conversation. But nope, that took over a decade.


  • People are making sensationalist headlines about your comment disliking sensationalist headlines, pretending there’s beef. If there were, filtering smorty from showing up in your feed would insulate you from the annoying drama.

    If you were playing along, my b, but I didn’t want you to feel super excluded




  • I think men might be judged harshly if they ate the same diet as women.

    When I was 16, I had a therapist and a job at a restaurant. I was talking to the therapist about a regular I didn’t like: this guy was in his 60s, would come in and get 8 refills of root beer, and ask personal questions to try and flirt with me. The therapist said that she disliked him too, for a different reason, and I guessed that it was drinking an overly sweet beverage at 60 (tbf, I was a sixteen year old idiot and my father has almost no sweet tooth and exclusively drinks water and black coffee). She was surprised, but agreed, saying that it suggested he hadn’t fully matured and would be more likely to be a pedophile.

    A therapist said that. She probably had at least a master’s degree, and she was spreading that shit? My initial thought was just that he should care more about his teeth and he’s probably got really bad breath, but I definitely internalized her idea for longer than I should have. It made me weirdly wary of random dudes for years, until I thought about it further instead of just automatically accepting it.

    As a side note: it’s nowhere near as problematic as specious accusations of pedophilia, but women are also judged for not having a sweet tooth. I inherited my dad’s tastes, and only very occasionally want sweets- people accept this fully if you say you want to, but you’re watching your weight. When I say I just don’t really have a sweet tooth, I’ve had people tell me I’m mistaken or intentionally lying (?!?), but much more commonly, they take this as evidence that I’m a joyless person who needs to relax.

    Why is food gendered?



  • What for? There’s no reason to try and force anyone to do anything. It’s all completely pointless because whatever you get out of them will be gone the next day. Plus, how do they collect the people every day? Unless you surprise them every morning somehow, I think most people would just say no, even upon pain of death (potentially suicide) after the first few torture sessions, especially if you know that people have died and they still come back the next day.

    You can make plans for the beginning of the day, but you can’t intentionally wake up earlier than you did the first time, so raids or similar tactics are unlikely to work unless you’re targeting someone who originally slept until noon.


  • I don’t disagree with any of that, except that it’s way easier to break a hip (especially if you’re a woman who’s given birth in the previous few years) than most people realize. We’re generally really good at walking when we’re younger, so it’s not as common to fall (especially not without catching yourself and minimizing the damage), but a fall onto ice or stone at the wrong angle could damage a lot of 30 and 40 year olds’ pelvises.

    I was very stupid and playing Pokémon go while drunk on a wet, mossy cobblestone road at 29, and I fell and broke my arm and eye socket. I lift weights and am generally strong and healthy, but it was just a bad angle. It took drunkenness, distraction, and a slippery and uneven surface to get me to fall without catching myself, but once I did, it’s not hard to do damage.

    Edit: I will grant you: drunk Pokémon players do not show the level of judgment that I want from elected officials, but walking to work on an icy sidewalk if it’s your only transportation option is not an error of judgment and it’s more dangerous than people realize.


  • I was very lucky and worked at a place with a gym, so I just showered after my 18 mile commute, problem solved.

    Surely even without a locker room, people can change out of the bottom layers for the workday though. You’d need a place to keep your clothing, but if you’re in an office with cubicles or something similar, that’s fine.


  • My mom died 20 years ago. I suspect you’ll think about yours every time you eat a pickle or can a batch of something. It will probably take some time to not be overwhelming, but it’s lovely that you’ll have a way to recall her memory whenever you want- and it’s productive for you and those around you! That’s a pragmatic and nurturing gift that I think most mothers would want to leave for their children.