• flambonkscious
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    7 months ago

    But it is it a greater harm to decline her request and force her to endure suffering (or risk more drastic methods)?

    I hear where you’re coming from (I think), and agree this is tragic, but part of me is jealous of her.

    How much that part of me equates to changes each day with my tension headaches

    • OBJECTION!@lemmy.ml
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      7 months ago

      Personally, I think the greater harm would come from the normalization of suicide, because it will lead to cases where it is unnecessary. It’s better to err on the side of caution.

      The prototypical case where assisted suicide is pitched is an elderly person, lying in bed in constant pain, unable to end their life without it. That I can accept.

      But in this case, it’s possible that something could change that would allow her to live a healthy and happy life, and she wasn’t confined to a hospital bed, so if it was so important for her to kill herself she could’ve found a way to. What assisted suicide is doing in that case is not providing a last resort option, but removing the social barriers and stigma around what should be considered a last resort option. Making the process sterilized, clean, and beurocratic.

      People on here have said stuff like, “Oh it’s so much less traumatic to her loved ones this way.” But what about without the policy? What would be stopping her from communicating to her spouse and family her intentions and the necessity of the act, because of the pain she was in? What exactly changes about the situation just because the state rubber stamps the act?

      Many people choose suicide rashly and impulsively, and the social barriers we’ve created exist for a reason, because it’s supposed to be discouraged, it’s supposed to be stigmatized. Because if stigma and discouragement are enough to dissuade you, then it wasn’t actually necessary.

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        7 months ago

        I don’t believe it’s stigmatized because society is compassionate and wants to help. It’s stigmatized because society loses a worker or soldier or taxpayer. I know that’s just how things work but it is disgusting.

      • flambonkscious
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        7 months ago

        Thanks for this, I really appreciate your nuanced stance.

        I fear you may be correct, which feels uncomfortable (I disagreed with you originally)