thank god my girlfriend used to be (and still is) extremely to the point
we were just walking with our friend group, then something happened that her and i were way in front of everyone else (i dont remember if they stopped or if we just walked faster), and she didnt know how to say it, so she just kissed me on the cheek
idk if its still possible for someone to misunderstand that. probably is
My girlfriend hinted that she liked me by getting under a blanket with me and taking off all her clothes. To be honest, I still wasn’t certain. We’ve been together 13 years.
I’m the same way, I’m autistic and assume everyone else also doesn’t get subtext and social cues so I just say what I mean and honestly, when they say 'tism rizz, it just means not being afraid of embarrassment or rejection.
I don’t know if I’m autistic but I’ve always functioned this way too. I can’t understand subtext. Things have to be spelled out for me, I never understood why communication shouldn’t simply be as clear as it can be. Experience gave me some clues, though, so I can do the translation myself in some (most?) cases, but I feel it’s never going to be intuitive at all.
Yeah the only reason I can catch it is years of studying how other people communicate, but I’ve basically stopped masking in social situations at this point in my life. I think a lot of folks find it refreshing when you communicate directly
This feels good to read. I’m at the point where I reduce the masking gradually, and I find it relaxing. I also came to realize how taxing it was… I think I can handle being different now, with all that entails
thank god my girlfriend used to be (and still is) extremely to the point
we were just walking with our friend group, then something happened that her and i were way in front of everyone else (i dont remember if they stopped or if we just walked faster), and she didnt know how to say it, so she just kissed me on the cheek
idk if its still possible for someone to misunderstand that. probably is
My girlfriend hinted that she liked me by getting under a blanket with me and taking off all her clothes. To be honest, I still wasn’t certain. We’ve been together 13 years.
She could be Canadian and just being polite
oh god i saw 13 years before reading and it sounded a lot worse until the end
congratulations though, im happy for you!
I’m the same way, I’m autistic and assume everyone else also doesn’t get subtext and social cues so I just say what I mean and honestly, when they say 'tism rizz, it just means not being afraid of embarrassment or rejection.
I don’t know if I’m autistic but I’ve always functioned this way too. I can’t understand subtext. Things have to be spelled out for me, I never understood why communication shouldn’t simply be as clear as it can be. Experience gave me some clues, though, so I can do the translation myself in some (most?) cases, but I feel it’s never going to be intuitive at all.
Yeah the only reason I can catch it is years of studying how other people communicate, but I’ve basically stopped masking in social situations at this point in my life. I think a lot of folks find it refreshing when you communicate directly
This feels good to read. I’m at the point where I reduce the masking gradually, and I find it relaxing. I also came to realize how taxing it was… I think I can handle being different now, with all that entails