• @[email protected]
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    212 months ago

    Spoken like someone who isn’t afraid of potential dates. Lol.

    No way I’m meeting privately on a first date with someone I don’t know. I’d rather be stood up in the restaurant.

    • @[email protected]
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      182 months ago

      I’d say, do coffee. Cheaper, and easier to leave when any party decides the date is over.

      • metaStatic
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        -112 months ago

        coffee instead of a free dinner? put that on your profile and see how many hits you get. I’ll give you a hint, it starts with a decimal place.

        • @[email protected]
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          182 months ago

          If you’re not getting a date, I guarantee you, the word “coffee” in your profile is not the reason.

        • @[email protected]
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          122 months ago

          I’m no golden rule and I assure you, coffee date is on my profile. 1-2 dates a week. I’ve also had coffee… then some lunch… then dinner. All about connecting and not being a dumbass. No one wants to be trapped on a date that isn’t working, coffee or even just breakfast, is the best option.

        • @[email protected]
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          102 months ago

          Such a sad state of dating. You think it would start with interest in the person rather than interest in a meal.

        • @[email protected]
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          92 months ago

          I’ve always done coffee for first dates, from dating apps, or otherwise. It’s a great, relaxed atmosphere for getting to know someone. You can go for a walk, or chill in the cafe, then, if things are going well, and you both want to go further, you can get a meal after. The last woman I did this with, five years ago, is now my fiancée

        • @[email protected]
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          12 months ago

          Women worth dating tend to find coffee much more appealing as a first date than an expensive meal.

          Maybe you just have a hard time identifying the women worth dating? Many people do.

    • NoIWontPickAName
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      42 months ago

      You can just meet outside the restaurant.

      You just don’t go in before you meet them outside the front door.

      Hell, it can even be a chivalry test to see if he holds the door for you.

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        12 months ago

        I don’t tend to “test” the people I date.

        But I don’t have an issue meeting either way, so long as it’s communicated. I mean… meeting outside the door is still meeting at the restaurant.

    • @[email protected]
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      12 months ago

      What do you mean privately? I said do get into the restaurant. Meet at a mall, on a bench, in front of a store. If they appear, good, have a 5 minutes conversation and go to the restaurant.

      I’m from the time of mIRC, where I met a few girls, including the one who has been my wife for the past 22 years.