• andrew_bidlaw
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    41 month ago

    I thought I was adopted before I’ve heard or understood the concept of it.

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        1 month ago

        Not really. It’s just my parents had a hard time when I was born (russian 90s + medical issues) and I lacked contact with them working long irregular shifts. When I was failing in something or just sad, it was easier to imagine I’m of alien origin and don’t belong there, than to talk this out with them. It’s probably not on them, and far from the worst stories other lemmings can tell, but it did hurt.

        • @[email protected]
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          31 month ago

          My siblings just did it as an insult, “ugh I must be adopted because you all are dumb!”.

          There were some fun jokes at times, but my sister insisted even to others. Ironically, she has shown to be one of the less wise children with how she’s developed her life.

        • @[email protected]
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          21 month ago

          That’s incredibly sad. Kind of reminds me of my dad. My mom was better, but depending on the context she could be just as bad.

          • andrew_bidlaw
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            21 month ago

            It’s great we don’t depend on them anymore but it sure raise a question of how to be better than them, to tell when a kid is in trouble and to know how to help them even if it’s hard.