• Sethayy
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    4 months ago

    No offence but comments like this are only harmful to our community, and I know saying this might not change your mind on anything, but I’d feel wrong if I didn’t ask.

    Don’t try to speak for all of us, I know many of us have been treated horribly for years simply because who we are, and as fucked as that is it doesn’t make it ok to put your trauma above others, in a way that may be affected by your personal bias.

    The queer community has always been about outsiders, arguably even more so than simply about sex or gender, and in that vein I couldnt go to bed comfortably if I could gaurentee ffs to some of our sisters while leaving millions in constant physical pain, just like I feel looking in the mirror every day.

    This is class warfare, not bum fights in an alleyway - cause we all know the upper class has rock solid solidarity, and we don’t stand a chance until we do as well.

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      4 months ago

      Transition surgery is healthcare, not cosmetic. That’s all I said.

      This idea that trans healthcare trumps other healthcare needs is something the person I was talking to said, not something I said

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        4 months ago

        I see, sorry to have read your intentions wrong and I agree with you.

        Mostly I just wish Ontario would get its head out of its 1%'s ass and give us healthcare instead of this freenium bullshit

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        4 months ago

        I appreciate how you took ‘our’ in an individual sense, it takes a certain level of mental warping to achieve

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          4 months ago

          Where did they take it to an individual sense? You’re being a “pickme” and arguing for respectability politics. I vehemently disagree that trans people need to make ourselves and our rights palatable to non-queer folks.

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            Pickme to me means someone that always tries to steal the spotlight, an individual (though I’m not too up to date on my buzzwords admittedly).

            I also agree trans people don’t need to cater to others, but also we don’t need to be dicks cause yeah that’s just gonna enforce peoples bias’ - leave that shit to reddit/twitter.

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              Yes, and as it applies to talking about respectability politics, it refers to someone who goes out of their way to make themselves palatable to non-queer people for the purposes of being “one of the good ones”.

              And you’re still doing it with this “leave that shit” line. Like, I don’t go out of my way to be a dick to folks that are genuinely curious and want to learn more. But someone who waltzes into a space that’s for trans people and runs their mouth? No, I will not be polite to them. Telling me I should has the same energy as an old man telling a woman to “smile more”. So, please kindly f*ck off.

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                4 months ago

                I feel you have a lot of previous assumptions about my viewpoint, and are more angry at your construction of me than what I’m actually saying

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                  4 months ago

                  …leave that shit to reddit/twitter.

                  No, no I’m upset at what you’re saying and it’s implications. There honestly isn’t much I despise more than queer people telling other queer people how to react to cishet people’s aggressions. I personally find it more insidious than the aggressions themselves.

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              I’m absolutely going to be a dick to cis people invading our space. I do hope you get over this hangup though