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    Bro doesn’t know he’s Asexual yet. I was 25 when I found out. Also thought I might be bi growing up. It was a weird time for us adult Asexuals.

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      I’m 27 and seriously questioning if I’m actually gay or just some flavor of ace with an aversion to most sexual acts. I haven’t had any sexual contact with a woman except for a single kiss, so I don’t know if I can be sure yet. I absolutely despise the touch of men. It took 3 boyfriends to realize that men disgust me in regards to phyical/romantic/sexual contact.

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        Did you try looking at photos of naked people?

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          Yeah. Dicks are disgusting. Naked women are attractive in all aspects. Porn is great if the focus is on the woman and her enjoyment. But I can’t get over how gross oral seems. Like, idk if I could handle it. The thought wigs me out.

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            Sounds like a clear cut case to me: you’re lesbian. Not sure why you are doubting.

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            You might just not like oral. Asexuals don’t find people sexually attractive. They can find them aesthetically or romantically attractive, though.

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              What do you call a cis male who is sexually attracted to the conventionally attractive female phisique, but once it actually gets to acts of sex or porn that depicts it, all interest is completely lost?

              Asking for a friend…

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                A straight man who doesn’t like sex.

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                That is like the exact opposite of demisexuality. I had to look it up, but it is under the Ace umbrella, and I think it might be Fraysexuality.

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        2919 days ago

        A lot of asexuals who masturbate don’t do it with a sexual mindset, it’s more like an exercise to relieve stress or get a little boost of dopamine.

        It would be like asking “what do people without food fetishes think about when eating?” Idk, whatever is on their mind. They might think about how good it feels, but they could also be thinking about something totally unrelated.

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          This. Varies by person, but I’d say they’re thinking about the sensation, or possibly a kink (Asexuals can have kinks).

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      818 days ago

      I figured out I was ace about a year or two ago. When I told a friend he said, “Yeah, everyone can tell, you’re the least sexual person I’ve ever met.”