• iAmTheTot
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    3 months ago

    My partner and I have joint financial accounts, but it still would be weird to us to take whatever car.

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      3 months ago

      Why? Is it weird to use whatever plate or fork? What about couch cushions? Umbrellas?

      I see cars as tools, so there’s not “my car” and “their car,” but “the small car” (hybrid w/ great gas mileage) and “the big car” (minivan). Before we had kids, we only had one car, and if we needed to be in different places, I would ride my bike, walk, or take the bus. That almost never happened, and it wasn’t a big deal when it did.

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        3 months ago

        Plates, forks, cushions, and umbrellas are not typically as personalized as a car.

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          3 months ago

          And my argument is that cars should likewise not be personalized. They’re tools.

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            3 months ago

            Okay, but you started with “why?”, that’s the question I was answering.

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            3 months ago

            That’s just your opinion. To me, clothes are tools and there’s no reason to personalize - just wear black everything, that’s what I do. Other people don’t seem to share my opinion and that’s fine too.

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              Sure, and I agree with you. I don’t find much value in chasing trends, so I wear something respectable for my line of work and call it good.

              Cars can be more than tools, and at that point I’d understand the OP that it would be weird to switch those between a couple, but I don’t see any reason for that to be the norm rather than the exception, just like chasing trends shouldn’t be the norm.