• sugar_in_your_tea
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    3 months ago

    Did your high school have a meaningful number of POC? (i.e. more than the token black kid)

    If not, I don’t think your high school experience is directly comparable here. Not having faces to place next to slurs can make the slurs seem funny instead of actually hurtful.

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      3 months ago

      It did, actually. I think it was more due to being just a few years before the smart phone craze really took off. I graduated in 2010. It was still extremely common for kids to not have any phone at all or just a very basic phone. We had social media, but not the constant access to HD cameras and ability to post whenever.

      Ironically this probably saved a lot of them from stupid shit. It takes a certain combination of hatred and stupidity to do this.

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        3 months ago

        I honestly don’t know these boys, but I can honestly see this as not involving any form of hatred. I’ve been to a fair amount of small towns, and they really don’t have any kind of conception of what these words actually mean to people. They certainly understand that it’s hurtful, but I think it is closer to curse words (i.e. “taboo” and “edgy”) than an actual intent to cause harm to someone.

        If you see it from that perspective, I think it’s unfair to hold these boys accountable for it for the rest of their lives. It’s a dumb move, but they’ll hopefully get some exposure to POC and change their ways. I would honestly be pretty surprised if these kids actually hate black people, I think they’re just doing it for attention, and this kind of “shock” is an effective way to get attention.

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          I think it’s unfair to hold these boys accountable for it for the rest of their lives.

          Not sure where that came from.

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            Look at the other comments in this thread, where people seem to be claiming this is unconscionable and that these boys are irredeemable racists, or something like that.

            I’m explaining that I doubt these boys have the actual life experience needed to appreciate the impact of their actions. That’s all.