I’m a transmasc demiboy, but I don’t really like to present myself very masculine. I still love wearing skirts, I like painting my nails, even wearing light makeup.

I’m not happy about the idea of having facial hair or a deeper voice, which is why I have not yet started HRT, even though I’ll probably need to in some capacity since I do want phalloplasty in the future.

I also have no desire for top surgery since I don’t want to lose sensation in my nipples, and I don’t want to have scars on my chest. They don’t bother me anyway, they’re small (about an A cup). Just about the only masculine thing I do is that I cut my hair short, not super short, but still shorter than what would be considered feminine.

Is this normal? Does anyone else have similar experiences? I’ve been told I don’t act enough like a boy and that I need to be more masculine.

  • the post of tom joadEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I’ve been told I don’t act enough like a boy and that I need to be more masculine.

    Hey that sounds super-affirming (/s)!

    Check it tho, it can be super affirming if you want because even cis amabs like me get told they’re not masculine enough, allllll the time! Welcome to the man club bro lol look in your back pocket it’s your man card you walked in with it cuz you’ve been here all along. The secret of man land is ain’t none of us ever masculine enough to be the “real men” ideal we only think we want to be. You’re valid whatev kind of man you are