It’s been a long ol time since I’ve known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it’s mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

  • eestileib
    121·
    1 month ago

    I think in the second half you’re asking whether butches are more likely to be toppy and femmes are more likely to be bottomy.

    I think there’s probably some positive correlation there but butchness and toppiness are distinct concepts.

    • stoicmaverick@lemmy.worldOP
      5·
      30 days ago

      Things about this post:

      1. It’s concise, and address the initial post
      2. I’ve never heard the terms ‘toppy’ or ‘femme’ used in this way, but I’m happy that I have now.
      3. Is ‘Butch’ PC these days? I’m old and can’t keep track.
      4. It has the feeling of being written by a professional Lesbian scientist on their lunch break at work.
      5. I love it.