• nehal3m
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    6 小时前

    Sure I agree with that, but how is that implied by ‘a man likes to feel like a man’?

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      6 小时前

      The post shows a woman talking about how she was told her strong personality could make men insecure.

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        5 小时前

        No it doesn’t. It shows a woman imagining things that weren’t said, which is then responded to with an anecdote.

        edit: Yeah I guess I’m wrong here. The second post does talk about that. Still, I don’t think ‘A man likes to feel like a man’ implies anyone needs to do anything to accommodate.

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      5 小时前

      how is that implied by ‘a man likes to feel like a man’?

      What’s the context that you’re imagining this topic coming up? Because from my perspective, as a man, if someone said this to me about someone else I’d assume that I’m being asked to come up with some made up work, so that some junior guy on my team, or some dude in my social group who is feeling down, can feel more useful.

      Which I might or might not accommodate, but it’s kinda patronizing and would effectively have the opposite effect in building up my respect for that man.

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        5 小时前

        I’m not imagining any context, I am taking the statement at face value. I am a man, and I like to behave in a way that makes me feel like it. Like mentioned elsewhere in this thread, that means feeling useful, it means being relied upon by others, it means honouring the responsibilities I have towards others.