Like, why is it so widespread, what causes it, what solutions are available, etc. I don’t really know how to ask this question so I hope I’m making sense

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    I am reminded of a book called Good To Go by Harry Constance, a US Navy SEAL who served in Vietnam. The exact line of the book it reminds me of is “No swimming.”

    I’ve once heard it said that men insult their friends but don’t really mean it, women compliment their friends but they don’t mean it either. I’ll take “Come on, walk it off you’re alright” over faked sympathy every day for 37 more years.

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      Seems like everyone in your life treats you terribly. Is it possible that the problem might lie with the common factor here? Consider finding a therapist to help you through these thoughts.

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          Internet stranger who grew up in the same world. I grew up not being seen or feeling valued. So i can see how you’ve come to feel how you have.

          There really are good people out there. I hope you can find better people, and when you do, that you can meet them ready to reciprocate their kindness and vulnerability.

          Just a fucking heap of work it takes to get there though…

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            There really are good people out there

            There are enough lies on the internet, no need to add more.

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              You’re free to live on thinking that way i guess. Just don’t make it other people’s problem.