Men get so many mixed messages in today’s society, from being called toxic to being pushed to be top dog (or else you’re a loser). There are lots of expectations put on men, and various ways men rebel against those.
What can be done to address society’s negative views of men and masculinity? And how can we formulate what healthy masculinity looks like, so we can teach that to our boys?
This is going to sound weird, but I think talking through emotions early is important. I’ve often had a hard time understanding why I’m upset. My sons are under ten: one of them will scream in rage when he’s upset, and the other will get quiet and passive aggressive. (Both are well within the bounds of normal, but they’re kids)
I don’t know if this is just my genes or is a broader issue, but I’m trying to get my guys to say when they don’t like something and talk about why. Early. Before they reach a boiling point.