An undercover police officer used his fake identity to deceive a woman into a 19-year relationship in which they became partners and had a child together, the Guardian can reveal.

The officer concealed his real identity from the woman for the duration of that period, never telling her his real occupation, and using his fictitious identity on the birth certificate of their son.

In 2020, after the couple were engaged to be married, the woman discovered that her fiance, whom she believed to be a businessman, was in fact a police officer who had subjected her to a sophisticated deception lasting almost two decades.

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    10 months ago

    Or choose both. You may consider that unethical, but that doesn’t mean it was insincere. People do unethical things all the time with sincere motivations.

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        110 months ago

        I’m not necessarily defending it, I’m pointing out that his commitment to her was quite possibly sincere and not a “bit”.

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          110 months ago

          Lying and manipulation are not evidence of commitment to anyone but but his own selfish desires.

          To argue the opposite is ingenuine at best.

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            110 months ago

            Being in a relationship with someone for 10+ years and raising a child with that person is strong evidence of commitment. Lying about one’s birth name is not enough to prove otherwise.

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              010 months ago

              Noooonooonooo, He once did something… Let’s say unwise, so naturally after 17 years it is all a pure lie! Some people really need to go out and touch grass. So disconnected form reality.