• @carbon_based
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    210 months ago

    It’s about knowing myself and how i experience myself in relation to others and seeing the difference. It’s not about putting a label on me because of a set of behaviourisms. I don’t even want that “disorder” label. Or be seen as defective somehow. Perhaps i should just find it funny that others want to deny me the expertise in knowing my self-experience. This community used to be quite nice and understanding until recently.

    • @mikeboltonshair
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      110 months ago

      Except every single person on this planet feels differently than others do we aren’t a mass lump of sameness, being different doesn’t automatically mean you aren’t normal or have a condition, which is the entire purpose of adding labels to things especially in relation to needing it for any type of medical care or assistance of some kind.

      If you personally don’t require a diagnosis or label then good for you, you don’t want or need the label of autistic so you don’t need a diagnosis so you are arguing for what exactly? The ability to self diagnose yourself with a label you don’t even want?

      I re-read the replies I made and anyone else that replied and I don’t see anyone being not nice, people can disagree with your opinions that doesn’t make them unkind, if you get upset that others disagree with your viewpoint don’t worry about it just move on with your day

      Me disagreeing with you didn’t deny you your own self experience, just like you disagreeing with me didn’t deny me anything either

      • @carbon_based
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        010 months ago

        I think I never claimed “I am autistic”. I’m just trying to explain (that’s not an opinion but it’s trying to clarify indisputable things), that i’m obviously my own authority in seeing that my human being here has an above-average share of neurodivergent traits. I make a distinction between ND and autism, btw. If that would be assessed “autistic”, I don’t know (but it would be interesting anyway). The more I’m around in places like this the more relatable stuff pops up, and having it all labeled a disability is devastating. There are traits that rather handicap me within my society (but wouldn’t elsewhere), and there are certainly abilities that have me stand out. Having strangers who know nothing about how i live and about my path in life want me to get labeled a “disorder” is ridiculous at best and offending actually.

        The general vibe of this comment section smacks a lot of hexbearian-style brigading, sorry if you’re not part of such a thing.

        • @mikeboltonshair
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          010 months ago

          Having a disorder isn’t offensive at all, you seeing it that way is your own problem, it’s a word, we use words to describe things, if something deviates from the norm then it’s a disorder, no one chooses to have a disorder and having a disorder doesn’t make you any less of a human. You are getting hung up on a word and you personally don’t like the word is all this is.

          You saying this place smacks of brigading is also funny, once again just because other people don’t automatically agree with you doesn’t mean there is something going on… it could just mean people disagree with you. Not like the actual instance matters but I’m from the same one as you…

          You disagree with me, I don’t think you are “brigading” or trolling I just think you have a different opinion

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            10 months ago

            Late reply but for those who read this later: careful when wanting to know what is “the norm”. It’s social ideals, mostly. (And if it were statistics, where would we draw the line and why … homosexualdisorder?) – Yet luckily, “disorder” means illness, while a non-valueing statistical out of the ordinary would rather be called “divergent”.

            Relevant quote from the article:

            Whilst [neurodivergent] traits were celebrated in the modernist era, they increasingly began to show up as problems in the Britain during the 1980s – meaning that something had changed in British social normativity. Interestingly, according to critical psychiatrist Sam Timimi and colleagues, this largely happened in light of the rise of the neo-liberal market system, and in particular the services economy. In particular, this economic shift began to alter the notion of the ideal male: rather than being fixed in focus and obsessive, men increasingly now had to forever shift into new roles and to constantly sell one’s “self” in order to fit in. Members of the workforce, in other words, now had to become increasingly agile, flexed, narcissistic, and hyper-social in order to succeed and be valued – and this economic drive became reflected in social normativity at all levels of society.

            • @mikeboltonshair
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              110 months ago

              So you took all this time to find an article that you liked and this is what proves that it shouldn’t be called a disorder? It’s some guys blog…

              Find something in a peer reviewed journal and then maybe you will have something of substance

              • @carbon_based
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                19 months ago

                I’m learning. Do you? This implies it takes time. Glad we can end this breathtaking conversation with a win-win.
                I truely have no intention to beat anyone in the domineering game. I’m being snarky, tho.