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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Charming_Usual6227 on 2023-06-21 08:04:47+00:00.

I (30F) was visiting a different city for a weekend and staying at the home of a platonic friend (42M). His apartment has one bathroom and, every time I got up to use it, he would jump up and say he needs to use it first. At first I thought it was some kind of joke but when I asked he said it’s because I “take too long” (even when showering, I never took more than 10 minutes but when not using the shower it was significantly less than that) and he’ll just be a minute. I let it go on the first day and always let him go first because I didn’t want to criticize someone who’s hosting me even if I didn’t understand why the only time he seemed to need the bathroom was when I was headed towards it.

Things came to a head on my second and last day at his place when we were both sitting on the couch talking for an hour at night and I made a move to shower and get ready for sleep. He jumped up and said he would brush his teeth first so that he could go to bed without waiting for me to shower. I was upset because I’m sure that had I not made a move for the bathroom, he would have stayed on the couch for longer and told him that it was strange that he only remembered about brushing his teeth when I needed to use the bathroom.

He then accused me of being a disrespectful guest and making him justify why he had to brush his teeth.