• zaph
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    1 year ago

    How do you know they didn’t turn to the dark side because of the secrets

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      Socio/psychopaths have this gift of making them seem like the greatest thing until the mask slips off after getting comfortable aka after marriage.

      Most of the entire “true crime” docudrama genre is spouses turned bad.

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        That’s true and even something like a stroke can completely change a person.

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          Stroke, surgery, head trauma, misprescribed medications, undiagnosed mental/emotional health triggers, you name it. People can change, and often enough so do without their own choice in it.

          “Forever” is a bedtime story.

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        The way a lot of people in the comments are talking, everyone is a psych/sociopath. Sure, it can happen, but the percentage of the population with such tendencies is so low, it makes it ridiculous coming from someone who doesn’t carry an umbrella everywhere.

        Sure, it’s sunny, and there’s nothing to indicate it will rain in the hour I’m gone, but every so often it happens and I’m prepared.

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          It would be easier if we could find out sooner or quickly if someone is psycho/socio/narc but the problem is is that they are so damn good at hiding it. Hell, a lot of them are very charismatic on top of it. Sometimes it takes years to figure it all out.

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        Can you name the victim I have shamed? I thought we were talking hypothetically here.

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          Hence, my phrasing. The angle of your comment lies a little too close to an irrational and negative tendency. I suggest moving away from that in the future.

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            Yes pointing out that lying to your partner can cause relationship issues is definitely irrational and negative. Virtue signal someone else.