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  • pomodoro_longbreak
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    1 year ago

    Those are the types of situations where we should be asking ourselves if our interrogations are doing more harm than good. I’m interested in people, too, but there is some tact involved in knowing when to insert yourself.

    Especially if it’s about something that might not affect us directly, like trans people being bullied at school, or black people venting about experiences with the cops (etc, I don’t know you, but insert your own).

    Like the image says, these might be theoretical to us, but they are deadly serious to someone else, you know?

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      1 year ago

      I mean, yeah. We should ask those things of ourselves. I’m better about it in person. You fucks, tho? Nah. Gimme your stances. Explain what I’m missing. I’ve learned so much from asking questions, and they’re usually things I can use to reach other people. I try to be respectful of things that aren’t just ideological.

      This isn’t just social shit. When I’m learning new software, or a process, or pretty much anything I can’t learn from rote memorization. I have to understand why. That’s how things fit in my head. When I meet people that I can work with, that’s great. For those that want to just tell me something without explanation I prefer to remove myself from the conversation.

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        1 year ago

        That’s fair. This is all contextual and case by case blah blah etc. If you’re doing it genuinely and with good will towards the person you’re asking, then that goes a long way.