• @[email protected]
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    207 months ago

    I don’t know why but my mom just couldn’t multitask on the phone at all. I don’t have kids but my gf has one, and I try to always be attentive to her. I remember being really frustrated about this as a kid.

    • @[email protected]
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      177 months ago

      IMHO (not a parent), children need to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them. If they’re not hurt, they can wait a minute.

        • @[email protected]
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          57 months ago

          Sure, but only when they are too little to know better, or to do something themselves. If they are babied into childhood they may turn into adults who still believe the world revolves around them. I have a couple x’s like that. Into their late 30’s and still can’t function without someone else helping them

          Lessons need to be learned at the appropriate ages

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              17 months ago

              I don’t have children yet, and it might come to pass that I have none, but I have worked with them. I’m an observer type of person. I like to analyze things. I also come from a household where my own voice wasn’t heard. I didn’t learn how to manage my emotions, and as a consequence I’m having to continue to do so well into adulthood.

              Kids emotions are raw, intense, and untamed. Yes, they should be listened to, yes their needs should be met- but they also need to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them and that sometimes they need to wait.

              They need to know that they are loved. They need to know that they are important. But again, they need to know that other people are important too. They need to understand that other people’s feelings matter, too. They need to be able to identify when someone else is busy on the phone and come back later to show that cool new drawing they made.

              If the parent drops what they are doing each and every time, allows the child to interupt constantly, and leads them to believe that they are the most important person in the room at all times, then what lesson will they take with them into adulthood?

              You know those people that start yelling when their starbucks drink is not to their liking? That’s one way that those people are made

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                  17 months ago

                  My guess is that perhaps you’re a bit young and inexperienced with the world. It isn’t as black and white or cut and dry as you may think it is.

                  It certainly doesn’t revolve around children.

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        07 months ago

        If parents are not there for them when they ask, who in this world trully is going to be? You’re right the world doesnt revolve around them, but parents should.

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      -107 months ago

      I don’t have kids but my gf has one

      how are your gf’s kids not your kids? (or at least step-kids)

      • @zalgotext
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        147 months ago

        how are your gf’s kids not your kids?

        From a different relationship

        (or at least step-kids)

        They’re not married