Hi everyone! I like the posts so far, but I’m wondering: What exactly is a gooner girl? The gifs don’t seem to have anything in common other than being relatively vanilla heterosexual media, and the wider interwebs aren’t immediately defining it either.
If “gooner girl” is too simplistic and this isn’t enough of a post to be worth responding to yet, then here’s another question: What does “gooner girl” (or “gooner” or “goon”, etc.) mean to you personally?
I hope it’s alright to post this here. The rules didn’t say much. Cheers!
My view is that it’s not the OF creators who drove away amateur creators, it was the abuse directed at them by men who wanted only women with model like figures. I saw so many horrific body shaming comments along those lines. Here’s an example of that, which really affected how I changed moderation policy and got strict about assholes shitting on contributors:
https://lemmynsfw.com/post/6909667
I really think that’s the core of what drove away amateur OC contributors. Who would expose themselves, physically and emotionally, for free, only to be shit on by the audience? So they left. And that suppressed audience, because who’d come here without content? At least OF creators post stuff. And we have much too little of that right now. JMO
But if you were contributing, you’d have a first hand impression. I’d love your opinion on that.
The comments men make are truly atrocious. I have posted previously on an old account and received 99% wonderful comments but the shitty ones really suck even if it was the minority. Also those who weren’t brave enough to say it publicly would DM it instead.
So now with my new account I just post positive comments in male focused communities and report the shitty comments I see directed towards the few OC posters left.
Having just read through this comment chain, just wanted to say you’re awesome for commenting on the men posting!
I don’t comment that often, but my upvotes are definitely focused on real OC (not OF), because that’s the content, that’s the engagement with the community that I hope thrives. Men, women, NB, doesn’t matter - real people are real sexy.
I’m sorry you were driven away. My sense is the gonewild mod team has really improved moderation and removes the really horrible stuff now. But for a time it was basically unmoderated. And IMO that damaged our reputation with creators who might have stayed with more active moderation.
Thank you for your perspective.
It does seem to have gotten a bit better so hopefully OC posters will come back. It may be tough with so many OF pics being posted though. It’s not something you can really dissuade either because without those posts there would be hardly any content at all.
My lived experience on that matter was a bit of both. I was fortunate enough to never get any directly abusive messages or comments, just weird ones. A guy once commented (paraphrasing), “Your wearing the wrong buttplug.” Which made me laugh my ass off all day lol. The demanding comments could be off putting though.
I just saw it as: “Okay. The people here prefer pictures of models and OF advertisements more than interacting with actual women. Guess I’ll go elsewhere.” While there have certainly been great women with OF accounts active here (u/Rinn for example), they’re great because they choose to interact with the community organically. Accounts like u/Lorra and u/marichka are 100% why I chose to leave, not any sort of harassment. They’ll always have a much bigger impact on the community than people like u/SquirtMistress and myself, because they are able to target this instance with dozens of accounts posting daily. Also, notice the similarities between those two accounts. Both eastern European with similar posting habits, and zero comment. u/Marichka was even created the same day as u/nino_pasteloo and u/karin_masitoo, and also follow the same patterns. So I really think its a business or something running the accounts. And there are dozens of them.
TLDR; I 100% left because I believe OnlyFans bot accounts are dominating the instance, not any sort of harassment.