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    1 year ago

    But how do you get over the feeling that they are just trying to manipulate you?

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      1 year ago

      I’m not a therapist, so I wouldn’t know for sure. But I have dealt with a lot of my own trust issues by remembering that I can control the way that I show up, but I can’t control the way other people do.

      If I think someone might have questionable intent with how they engage with me, that’s their business. The way I behave in response is my business.

      It’s reframed the way I interact with folks in a lot of ways. I can deal with manipulative people to whatever extent I must, but then be like, “Okay, peace,” instead of being drawn into whatever bullshit they have going on.

      That’s just me, though. Everyone’s experiences and relationships are different. I hope you’re well!