“Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.”
But I don’t like the stupidity part though they used “stupid” in this video as wel. I think “ignorance” is a bit more accurate.
I also like the idea that amount we do not know is infinite thus we are all equally infinitly ignorant.
I’m sure I’ll get some flack for it here. but combining the two ideas means no one acts out of malice.
Ignorance (or stupidity if you prefer) is pretty broad and subjective. People do terrible things because they are not aware of impact. Maybe they are not connecting the thing they are doing to the consequences. Maybe they are in a condition of illness or rage where they are not even aware of what they are doing.
This doesn’t mean we cant get mad at people. If some stanger kicks you in genitals. Our immediate reaction is not going to be empathy. We will ascribe malice to that action and act instinctively. That is fair even though the Stanger point of view was probably justified in their own mind. For some reason they felt kicking your genitals would improve things in some misguided way. They honestly belived this was a good thing at the time.
Now apply to this to all who wrong you. Those directly and this indirectly doing you harm. Here’s what it’s done for me. I am quicker to ask questions and forgive when the situation calls for it.
I communicate with those harming me indirectly to let them know they are doing this. It’s actually helped. People don’t want to harm you and if you tell them they are doing that , they may do better.
I also try more to empathize when I hear somone has done somthing terrible. Remember empathy isn’t forgiveness. But trying to figure put why they did the thing helps a little.
There’s no monsters out there just more people like you seeing the world through a differnt lens. Be good to them.
While I believe that most of the poor decisions ever made are under influences of bad mood/childhood/traumas/etc, I also believe that a human being is capable of being evil just for the sake/enjoyment of it.
I just hope those cases are rare.
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People do terrible things because they are not aware of impact.
Some people (also) just don’t care.
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For some reason they felt kicking your genitals would improve things in some misguided way.
Some folks have it wrong and try to lift their mood by putting other’s mood down.
They should rather learn more positive ways to unhinge, without causing any damage to others (speaking about the bad mood as a rant TO a person without blaming them, writing, drawing, screaming in the woods, playing violent games, hacking some wood with an axe etc)
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I am quicker to ask questions and forgive when the situation calls for it.
Sometimes it helps to tell, how you felt about something.
They might not even know how you would feel about it!
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I also try more to empathize when I hear somone has done somthing terrible.
Me too. I usually want to hear both/all stories/points of views of an event that occured.
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Makes me wonder - again - that how much wrong would someone need to do to me before I’d snap.
I have a rather pacifist idea of myself! 😂
This was close the the idea of Hanlons razor
The actual rule is apprently
But I don’t like the stupidity part though they used “stupid” in this video as wel. I think “ignorance” is a bit more accurate.
I also like the idea that amount we do not know is infinite thus we are all equally infinitly ignorant.
I’m sure I’ll get some flack for it here. but combining the two ideas means no one acts out of malice.
Ignorance (or stupidity if you prefer) is pretty broad and subjective. People do terrible things because they are not aware of impact. Maybe they are not connecting the thing they are doing to the consequences. Maybe they are in a condition of illness or rage where they are not even aware of what they are doing.
This doesn’t mean we cant get mad at people. If some stanger kicks you in genitals. Our immediate reaction is not going to be empathy. We will ascribe malice to that action and act instinctively. That is fair even though the Stanger point of view was probably justified in their own mind. For some reason they felt kicking your genitals would improve things in some misguided way. They honestly belived this was a good thing at the time.
Now apply to this to all who wrong you. Those directly and this indirectly doing you harm. Here’s what it’s done for me. I am quicker to ask questions and forgive when the situation calls for it. I communicate with those harming me indirectly to let them know they are doing this. It’s actually helped. People don’t want to harm you and if you tell them they are doing that , they may do better. I also try more to empathize when I hear somone has done somthing terrible. Remember empathy isn’t forgiveness. But trying to figure put why they did the thing helps a little.
There’s no monsters out there just more people like you seeing the world through a differnt lens. Be good to them.
While I believe that most of the poor decisions ever made are under influences of bad mood/childhood/traumas/etc, I also believe that a human being is capable of being evil just for the sake/enjoyment of it.
I just hope those cases are rare.
.
Some people (also) just don’t care.
.
Some folks have it wrong and try to lift their mood by putting other’s mood down.
They should rather learn more positive ways to unhinge, without causing any damage to others (speaking about the bad mood as a rant TO a person without blaming them, writing, drawing, screaming in the woods, playing violent games, hacking some wood with an axe etc)
.
Sometimes it helps to tell, how you felt about something.
They might not even know how you would feel about it!
.
Me too. I usually want to hear both/all stories/points of views of an event that occured.
.
Makes me wonder - again - that how much wrong would someone need to do to me before I’d snap.
I have a rather pacifist idea of myself! 😂