whose personal preferences are or are not permitted to be carried out is in part what politics is, so I certainly wasn’t claiming it’s ‘not political’ or in your slightly diminutive phrasing “mere personal preference.” nor am I unaware of the history on this, or the individual realities of parents etc killing their charges, or of the systemic realities of all sorts of types, especially capitalists, being perfectly happy to substitute killing people off for support. none of that justifies trivializing intense suffering with flip comments like “oh she didn’t get over it after a few years.” that’s an unbelievably callous description of how painful just existing can be for some people, and it’s personally shocking to me how lightly you treat taking away something that would have spared a younger me from a whole lot.