My father, who convinced me (16 m) at the time to move in with him instead of my mother when they moved. All 3 of the other siblings stayed with my mother. He then kicked me out the week I turned 18, a week into my senior year. Since then he stays in touch only to speak with his grandchildren (now going on 4 kids). I have never been anything but opportunistic and positive in our interactions. Regardless he still acts like I am a burden to talk too. Am now 37, and finally getting to the point I should accept it. I’m the complete opposite with my own children and can’t comprehend how someone could treat their child like this. How do I cope? It eats at me. I will answer any questions in depth if it will help in understanding the situation.

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    11 months ago

    Sorry. It sucks.

    I’m not sure what you’re looking for, but it’s OK to be annoyed, pissed, sad or whatever.
    I don’t pretend to have a solution, merely that whatever you choose is fine.
    I haven’t been through your exact situation but sometimes, some people just don’t deserve a place in your life.

    It’s easy to think you owe him your presence just because he’s family, but really, you don’t.
    Neither do your kids.

    You’re not a burden. You deserve better.
    Your dad sounds like a narcissist, you’re not obligated to keep them in your life with how they seem to make you feel.