This time of year is meant to be filled with joy and family get-togethers, but not everyone has family or anything to be happy about. So are you ok?

  • franzfurdinand@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Honestly, not really. I experienced something traumatic on Christmas eve of 2017 and have never completely recovered. I’ll probably never get back to where I was before that.

    It really used to be my favorite day of the year but now it’s just raw and awful and I have to keep up appearances so I’m not a miserable person to be around. I really don’t want to be that way, I’m generally a pretty easygoing, easy to get along with kinda guy so I hate the shift that I make.

    • Dr. Coomer@lemmy.worldOP
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      11 months ago

      I’m sorry to hear. Have you tried talking to your family/friends about it? I’m sure they would be understanding and try to help you the way I wish I could.

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        11 months ago

        I’ve talked to some friends about it, but honestly it’s probably ground I need to tread with a therapist. I thought I had a good handle on it but this year has been particularly tough for some reason.

        Thank you, though, I appreciate the sentiment!

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          11 months ago

          Your welcome. If you can, please do see someone about it. It’s better to talk about it than to let it build.

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            11 months ago

            I’ve talked to a therapist in the past - not about this, but about the rest of the abuse that was heaped on me during that time. It did help some.

            You’re right, and it’s very similar advice my friends gave me. The hard part is finding the time and energy together to let me do it.