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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/SheffordAngelGuard on 2023-12-24 10:11:59+00:00.

Hi all!

I’ve (M25) been “officially” dating my girlfriend (F24) for over a year. We’ve been seeing each other for approximately 3 and a half years.

We are deeply in love, and we absolutely see our futures together. We make each other so happy, and get along with both of our families.

I see potential for a beautiful life together.

She’d like me to proceed with an engagement within a year from now that would lead to a marriage three or three and a half years from that point. For me, it just proves how serious I am. I don’t mind.

My issue: I may leave our major city in North America 18 months from now to either do Med School or Masters if I don’t get accepted locally. I’d be moving at least 7-8 hours away by car, and at most, a 7-8 hour flight away.

Concern: When I asked her about our status if that occurs, she said we’d probably remain long-distance. I love her dearly but unsure if it’ll be fulfilling enough for me long-term with no physical contact for months on end, other than rare occasions. I’m afraid we’ll lose touch. She seems dedicated to me regardless, but I’m not sure long distance is realistic.

Bottom line: this is holding me back from proposing. I love her so much … but don’t see how proposing prior to perhaps leaving to study far from home would benefit our relationship.

Thoughts?

TL;DR: Dating (M25) gf (F24) for over a year, deeply in love, considering engagement, but hesitant due to potential long-distance move for Med School or Masters. Concerned about the feasibility and fulfillment of a long-distance relationship, contemplating the impact on proposing before the potential move. Seeking advice on balancing love and future uncertainties.