Those in the community that wear a collar (or ask that their partner(s) do) do you wear them in public and do you notice any recognition from others when you do?

  • Violet@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    I dont wear my playcollar in public, its leather with tiny spikes and would be too obvious for me.

    But i do have a collection of collarlike necklaces, who go pretty with my day-to-day outfits and are way more subtle. I dont wear them all the time just when im in need of some extra support.

    I would like to have an eternity collar or something like that with some sparkly shiny little stones.

    • choking_the_dolphin@lemmynsfw.com
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      1 year ago

      I struggle to see how wearing a collar is any worse than vanilla folks wearing a wedding ring in public. And I say this as someone who’s pretty vanilla. It’s a symbol of a relationship, how is that hurting or even involving others?

      • PubSubSwitch@lemmynsfw.com
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        1 year ago

        Personally I draw the line at leashes. But it depends what public means. In more adult spaces, especially somewhere like a club or a dance I see no problem at all. Collars are just sort of like chokers. They just look kinkier.

        To be clear I don’t think people shouldn’t be allowed to use leashes anywhere or whatever, that’s just sort of where the personal line is for me. As in if someone asked me “Hey, should I leash up my sub while shopping” I’d say “probably not”. It’s not like I’d ask someone to please remove one if I saw them.

    • rufus@discuss.tchncs.de
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      1 year ago

      maybe you can elaborate. i too think wearing something like that is quite tame. and people who are not in to that kind of stuff, will not even notice. i certainly have not. people seem to be discreet.