it’s just you hear so many horror stories about it all. both about the apps themselves and just from people’s bad relationships in general. it’s a huge life change to go from single to actively going on dates [or whatever the term is], i feel like, because you’re being emotionally vulnerable, which is important / challenging, and committing to a lasting thing ostensibly as well. and i’d have to make sure my apartment is cleaner in all the specific neat little ways.
i mean i want to message back but every time it’s like i stress myself out and overanalzye what they said and what i should say and i can’t even enjoy it – does anyone enjoy that part?
You got lucky. Opening with “hi” may be slightly better than a cheesy pickup line but most people won’t reply to someone putting 0 work into the conversation. You’re giving them nothing to reply with besides another “hi”
Just open something relevant to their profile that’s not alluding to sex and keep it short/casual