• jet@hackertalks.com
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    10 months ago

    You were the perfect kind of ice cream. It’s just the person who asked you that question asked 10 other people, and they hooked up either before you responded or from a better option.

    It’s kind of like going to a 31 flavor ice cream shop and taking a bunch of samples there’s no commitment. They might get a cone, they might get multiple scoops from different types of ice cream, they might just walk out with the sample and not buy anything. That’s life in the ice cream biz

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          Yeah that’s why I quit. Also those apps are a tracking nightmare. I’d rather just take my chances out among the other meatbags.

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            10 months ago

            Probably your best move. As best I can tell, (honest) people on those sites are trying to approximate the kind of background info you get “on referral.” And from a business perspective, the service itself is just capitalizing on loneliness and taking advantage of how geographically scattered people are. So it’s messy from the get-go.

            Making friends and building a real, in person, social network is more effort but will yield stronger results. In the end, other people will be able to vouch for your social behavior which is something a dating site cannot do. And that goes both directions, too. As a bonus: you may get to see if your date’s friends are good people, before you even go out.

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    10 months ago

    Few years ago I had a girl ask me what my favorite type of wine was. I said Zinfandel and she said that’s the worst and unmatched me lol. Dating apps are so shallow

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      10 months ago

      If I was a wine I would be tequila. Because I don’t understand the question and I’ll convince you your bad ideas are great

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      Zinfandel is a very old and cultured grape variety. You can also just say “Primitivo”. It’s the same thing.

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        I’ve mentioned zinfandel to people before and had them say “I don’t really like white wine”.

        Seriously. Say you know nothing about wine without saying you know nothing about wine.

        For people who don’t get it, Zin is a red grape and “white zinfandel” is actually a rosé. You basically never see Zin made into an actual white wine.

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      That’s stupid. If you share a favorite wine you have to share the bottle. The perfect match hates your favorite wine and chocolate, and leaves your stuff alone.

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    Honestly, when you respond to the first open-ended question to say what a challenge your life is, it doesn’t exactly entice someone to join in it.

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      10 months ago

      Then again, the person making the question probably sent it to twenty others already

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      10 months ago

      … or it could be humor. I mean, pretty much everyone went through a rough spot the last couple of years, so there is also a chance for easy bonding there.

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    10 months ago

    “I’m Boldly Bearcat because that shit tastes great and I have a big dick.”

    ^This is how you do it OP.

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      I sure hope that wasn’t the case, seems pretty shallow.

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          It’s deep to write someone off as incompatible with you because they lightly use popular acronyms?

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            It’s not deep or shallow. It’s not that they’re incompatible. Especially if we’re just talking hooking up. Long term I don’t want to be texting with someone typing like that.

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              So… Yeah that’s shallow, since you won’t date someone long term due to you not liking how they text, that’s kinda a shallow thing to judge someone on

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      10 months ago

      As crazy and offensive as your comment is…

      Saying “my life is a rocky road” is not going to project stability and confidence in a dating context, it even indicates you have major life problems, and may be considered a red flag to potential matches.

      Which I think you were saying in your first sentence… Just with wildly inappropriate language.