Thank you for this response… and I’m so sorry for the experiences you had to endure. I can definitely see where you’re coming from regarding the idea of “quick or drawn out (but hey, they’re still here! Chin up!)”…

Life really can take torture and cruelty to another level when it wants, huh? I think what I’m finding as well is conflicting priorities. Some want to keep on fighting, knowing that it could make things far worse, but there’s a chance that maybe it’ll work. A small percent, but I can understand why people grasp at what they can. Then there’s the resignation, the acceptance… they’re all different parts of grief but are competing against one another. This isn’t some work project, either. It’s a person’s life. And there’s no right and wrong answers and everyone’s just trying to find out more and it’s like… maybe things are the way they are for a reason, you know?

But thank you for your words. It puts things into perspective in some realistic ways and I guess that’s all that can be sought for here, is some clarity, some further understanding.