I have finally got my selfhost wiki up to a satisfying shape. Its here: https://wiki.gardiol.org
Take a look i hope it can help somebody.
I am open to any suggestions about it.
Note: the most original part is the one about multi-homed routing and failbacks and advanced routing.
Yes, you are right, I already use DNS validation. But it is just it is easier to request a single wildcard certificate for my domain and have all the subdomains that I use for the local services defined only in my local DNS. I cannot fully automate the certificate renewal because namecheap requires to allowlist the IP that can call its API, and my ip is dynamic. So renewing a single certificate saves me time. Also, the wildcard certificate is installed on a single machine, so it is not the I increase a lot the attack surface by not having different certificates for each virtual host.