• Lunya \ she/it@iusearchlinux.fyi
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    8 months ago

    The easy way to have both is:

    • be trans girl
    • get a gf who’s also a nerd
    • not straight romance like on TV, but who cares, lesbians are better anyway.
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        I’ve worked with a few before.

        The thing is that unfortunately women receive a lot of harassment online, so they’ll often use a gender-neutral or male-sounding username online, and maybe won’t post as much so as to not draw attention to themselves.

        I’m not sure why it’s more common to see trans women in online communities though. Maybe in general they’re more thick-skinned or are less worried about posting online, or maybe just spend more time online in general? Not sure.

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          massive correlation with being trans, and being super adhd/asd/french/some other mental disorder (having one disorder means you have a strong possibility of having others, they’re all extremely tied into each other, including gender dysphoria) which are things that cause you to be significantly more likely to spend a majority of your time on the internet and on obscure/nerdy/highly derived forums for various complicated and straightforward reasons.

          being a social outcast also may push people towards corners of the internet, and trans people are often social outcasts even if they don’t have some other disability causing them to be (especially those from more rural/more conservative or religious areas)

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            This is a great comment, and I should have said something similar in my comment. Thanks for writing it.

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          Plenty of trans folks go harder on gender expression online because they have difficulties to do so IRL, even if being female presenting tends to result in more issues.

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        There’s dozens of us, I swear! I know a few more too! I also load it on to hardware I upcycle for charity and I know a few went to women. :) Everyone can get comfortable with Mint. It’s easier than Windows these days.

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        I knew one once, but she was borderline abused into it by her boyfriend. The same guy made me a linux user. He is quite succesful at that, if only he knew how to take a shower.

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          My mother did for many years and she was a great-grandmother.

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      Straight woman using linux is pure fiction, i mean, if nerds will see one in real life, she’ll have to fight them off like in world war z