“Stand where he tells you to stand, wear what he tells you to wear, and do what he tells you to do.”

This is the wedding night advice offered to brides by Josh Howerton, a senior pastor at Lakepointe Church in Dallas, Texas. Lakepointe, according to the Dallas Morning News, is one of the biggest megachurches in Texas, with over 13,000 people a week attending its main location. The church itself cites a number over 40,000 a week, between its six campuses and online services. Howerton opened Sunday morning services on February 25 with this paean to sexual coercion.

Claiming that the bride has “been planning this day her whole life,” and so the groom should indulge her: “Stand where she tells you to stand, wear what she tells you to wear, and do what she tells you to do. You’ll make her the happiest woman in the world.”

Then he hits folks with this counterpoint: In exchange, the bride should take a submissive role in what he pointedly calls “his wedding night,” to “make him the happiest man in the world.” (Howerton did not respond to a Salon request for comment.)