Sorry if this topic is stupid, I feel very stupid right now. I got transferred to a new department and I’ve had 2 or 3 clashes with the new boss about me not getting the hint. He finally gave me a metric, a number to get to. He spelled it out. I can do that, but I’m just freaking out that he’s gonna fire me because I couldn’t get the clue until today.
It would be best to establish that you work best with direct, very explicit communication. If I was in your situation, I would seek the advice of someone else (such as another coworker, HR, your boss’ superior) about how to achieve that with him in a non-controntational way. The point of seeking someone else’s advice is not just because they might have the insight or the capacity to help you indirectly (by answering the question) or directly (by talking with your boss alongside you), but because you’ll be painting the situation as an issue between both you and your boss that you’re constructively trying to solve, which would make him fire you slightly more difficult, since that will make him appear as unreasonable.
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Why are you fretting because your boss sucks at communication? Establish your expectations and communicate these. They should be able to give you direct goals when necessary.
Because I’ve been berated for decades about how I’m stupid for not getting the point, training me to think it’s my fault. Anxiety isn’t rational.
I understand. You’re right that anxiety (or any emotion) isn’t rational, but try to remind yourself that communication is a two way street.
They obviously hold a position of power considering they are your boss, but it would be good to discuss expectations and boundaries to prevent miscommunication in the future!
I’ve been screamed-at, in an office-lobby, by my supervisor, for not recognizing people by their faces.
I’m face-blind, and only know that because of that series-of-incidents.
I didn’t know, until my mid-30’s, that ANYBODY ANYWHERE could ever recognize people just by their faces.
Absolutely stunning.
I recognize people by their being where they’re supposed to be, the way they move, their voice, their clothing, all together, and usually I can recognize 'em, if I’ve seen 'em recently-enough.
That normals can recognize people only by seeing a face??
too weird.
Think of it this way: if he was going to fire you, he wouldn’t have trained you, and taught you about the metric, and worked hard to make sure you understand the hint. He’s investing time, and energy into you, because he intends to keep you around. Stay positive
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