I was permanently banned from Reddit for being too silly so I will now be a depressed piece of living garbage here from now on 🥰

  • Asherah@lemmy.worldOP
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    6 months ago

    “Make friends”? Is that some form of magic spell I never learned? Jokes aside I have severe social anxiety, I feel it is almost impossible to make new friends haha. The friend group I refer to here is all from elementary school and I’m nearly 30 now… They’re just drifting away regardless of what I do to try to stop it

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      6 months ago

      I’m impressed it stayed together that long. Unfortunately, most people get a partner and settle down, which sucks if you don’t. You can’t stop them from entering that new phase, which is painful if it means you no longer have a place in their lives.

      Finding new people your age sucks because most people who have focused their attention on family and jobs. The one bit of solace you can take is that most people become less happy when they have kids and work more.

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        6 months ago

        Well, I’d understand if I wasn’t the only one being left out. The rest of the group hasn’t drifted apart, I meant literally just they have drifted away from me. Only one of them is married and has a child. I’m being left behind, the rest of the friend group is sticking together.

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            6 months ago

            I don’t know. They just seem disinterested in including me. It’s probably my fault.

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              6 months ago

              Perhaps, but it probably doesn’t matter at this point. For whatever reason, they’re drifting away and you don’t know how to stop it. Blaming yourself doesn’t help if you don’t know what you even did wrong. Guessing wouldn’t be helpful, as your guess could be incorrect and create even more problems from you trying to solve it. Unless it’s something you can change, beating yourself up about something isn’t helpful.