I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don’t want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there’s the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it’ll come to me.
“Be yourself” is terrible advice. What they really mean is “Be the best version of yourself that makes you a great friendly person that people want to hang out with”. This might mean trying to change yourself to be whatever you think the coolest version of you is. This is fine because it’s a form of self-improvement.