cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/906126
I’ve observed if I say nothing (because I simply don’t know how to react), opinionated people think you agree with them, which I don’t. I don’t care.
what I want to tell him, next time he starts ranting: ‘I don’t care what you think, leave me alone’.
However, I may have to work with this person in the future, so what about ‘you don’t have to tell me everything you think, most of the time I don’t pay attention’ and if he keeps pushing it ‘it’s tiring working with a person who has to rant to feel good, it’s boring and makes me ignore you, which is a problem, because we work together.’ And leave.
What about ‘everybody has problems, maybe talk to a therapist? I cannot help you’.
Or maybe simply leaving when he starts his rants?
Just pause awkwardly for a second, long enough to be felt but not long enough for them to start talking again, and bring up something unrelated
It’ll hit them with the feeling of social rejection, but without the confrontation or giving them anything to latch onto. Nothing to get offended about or argue against, there’s nothing to react to there
It might take longer, but it’s not a request to stop - it’s training them to not bring it up. It’ll make them uncomfortable to talk about it - even if they force themselves it’ll be uncomfortable for them
(Unless they’re high on the spectrum, in which case direct is better all around)