Relationships are all different and unique. Something that’s cheating to you may not be to this relationship, or vice versa. I’m a proponent of open relationships, with good communication - if we discuss it and there’s no deception, it’s not cheating.
Making up all these different definitions of “cheating” vs “emotional cheating” and distinguishing them from other instances of hurtfully not honoring agreements.
It’s just that: people have an agreement with each other and one of them expressed that it’s very important for them emotionally for the other to honor it. Then the other didn’t. That expectedly hurts.
Why is there a special word when the agreement is about sex?
They aren’t even “traditional” really. We didn’t start pairing off in “lifelong partnerships,” aka marriage, until a few thousand years ago. We spent hundreds of thousands of years existing in communal tribes.
I’m not disagreeing with your core message: monogamy isn’t “older” than polygamy. But neither is it the other way around: We probably did both since very long ago.
The notion that there’s a human “tech tree” of civilization is wrong. E.g. Agriculture doesn’t “follow” hunting and gathering, and neither does centralized power (like in a state) “follow” agriculture. Humans have been experimenting with social structures since basically the beginning.
So within the last tens of millenia, there were probably societies that were monogamous, some that were polygamous, and some that rotated or did both, and of these some depending on some social stratification and some depending on personal preference.
I totally hear you there. No problem with whatever people want to do. Everyone should be able to pursuit their happiness if it isn’t causing others harm or distress. Live and let live.
Relationships are all different and unique. Something that’s cheating to you may not be to this relationship, or vice versa. I’m a proponent of open relationships, with good communication - if we discuss it and there’s no deception, it’s not cheating.
Traditional relationship models are so weird.
Making up all these different definitions of “cheating” vs “emotional cheating” and distinguishing them from other instances of hurtfully not honoring agreements.
It’s just that: people have an agreement with each other and one of them expressed that it’s very important for them emotionally for the other to honor it. Then the other didn’t. That expectedly hurts.
Why is there a special word when the agreement is about sex?
They aren’t even “traditional” really. We didn’t start pairing off in “lifelong partnerships,” aka marriage, until a few thousand years ago. We spent hundreds of thousands of years existing in communal tribes.
I’m not disagreeing with your core message: monogamy isn’t “older” than polygamy. But neither is it the other way around: We probably did both since very long ago.
The notion that there’s a human “tech tree” of civilization is wrong. E.g. Agriculture doesn’t “follow” hunting and gathering, and neither does centralized power (like in a state) “follow” agriculture. Humans have been experimenting with social structures since basically the beginning.
So within the last tens of millenia, there were probably societies that were monogamous, some that were polygamous, and some that rotated or did both, and of these some depending on some social stratification and some depending on personal preference.
Source: “The dawn of everything”
I totally hear you there. No problem with whatever people want to do. Everyone should be able to pursuit their happiness if it isn’t causing others harm or distress. Live and let live.