• FlorianSimon
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    5 months ago

    I think you should ask people who’ve been together for a long time about that. I’ve been with my wife for 13 years and we still tell each other we love the other and find them pretty.

    If anything, she facilitates my non-drinking, making me realize how much it harms me.

    Maybe I’m a narcissist. I don’t think I am, but, if I were, you wouldn’t trust me to tell you.

    Is it the perfect love story you see in the movies? No, and realizing it just can’t be that way might be the reason why we’ve stuck together for so long and didn’t downgrade our relationship to us being simple roommates with a shared past.

    • rwhitisissle@lemy.lol
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      5 months ago

      Right. That’s why I didn’t say “it’s impossible for things to be this way,” but instead said “this is what I’ve seen.” It’s possible that I’ve just happened to see the worst of long term relationships by virtue of bad luck or environment. I don’t discount that possibility and I’m not saying that my limited experience of the world represents the sum total of all human potential.