• @[email protected]
    30•2 months ago

    Me: <tells friends how I’m feeling> Friends: “that sucks.” <pained expression>

    Turns out talking about your feelings doesn’t help if no one can help with the problem.

    • @[email protected]English
      26•2 months ago

      Speaking and sharing what you’re going through rarely fixes problems, but it does help as…

      1. a moderate pressure release for you, by simply letting the frustration loose can help relieve the stress of hiding the emotions and behaviors,

      2. gives people around you context to your (likely noticeably) different behavior along with the opportunity to offer support, guidance or material help, and

      3. either speaking or writing an unformed idea that’s vexing you has a finite benefit by taking a fluid, nebulous, unwieldy feeling and capturing it in amber, pinning it down to something that can be refined, examined and (hopefully) mitigated.

      For more on this third point, see this article on how one can use writing as a thinking exercise, helping refine and distill ideas into more-satisfying understood truths.

      https://www.henrikkarlsson.xyz/p/writing-to-think

    • @[email protected]
      4•2 months ago

      There’s two sides to that coin though. Often times people just want to vent and trying to solve all their problems for them can be frustrating.

      • @[email protected]
        1•2 months ago

        Totally agree, but unless you’re comfortable asking which one the person with the problem would prefer, it can be challenging to know which path to take.

        I guess you could argue that if you’re not comfortable enough with this person to ask, then the person might not be comfortable seeking solutions.

        My relationship with my spouse massively improved when we started telling each other which we prefer for each situation.

  • The Octonaut
    12•2 months ago

    This comic somehow funnier than the average for the artist.

    Fascinated by what the reaction would be to a male comic strip person trying to address a serious issue that women face through the medium of a simplified… oh shit is this loss?

    • @[email protected]
      10•2 months ago

      This comic is a PR reaction to a previous one.

      She tried genderfliping to make a point about “men have it easy, really”, was told whe was wrong, reacted really badly, and r/comics mods had to nuke the thread for all the people calling her out on it. Then she made this non-apology apology.