• Guntrigger@sopuli.xyz
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    4 months ago

    This is exactly the point I’m trying to make, but am getting downvoted because I apparently sound like a “child rape apologist”.

    I understand the crime is emotionally charged, but that doesn’t mean anyone convicted of it should just be thrown in the oubliette.

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      4 months ago

      I believe people can change and I think it’s important we hold space for people to do so. However, that hinges on the person actually growing, which often starts with showing remorse. I know you implied that this guy has done so, but I haven’t seen any evidence of that.

      Even the quote you posted somewhere else about it being the worst thing he’d done, or something like that? That very much sounds like a, “I’m not sorry I did it, I’m sorry I got caught” kind of statement.

      Asked if van de Velde had ever expressed any remorse to him for rape, Immers [his teammate] said: “No, he doesn’t, he doesn’t explain it.” (source)

      “I have been branded as a sex monster, as a pedophile,” he said. "That I am not — really not.” (source)

      If there’s an apology or some actual statement showing his remorse, I’d love to see it, but I’m skeptical that it exists. This whole controversy he’s had a huge opportunity to step up, apologize, and rebuke his prior actions. Instead, he’s faced it all with silence and a reaction of ‘I don’t want to talk about it.’ That is not the behavior of a person who acknowledges they were in the wrong, imo.

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        4 months ago

        Seems like this whole debacle is because he didn’t make a press tour saying to the whole wide world how remorseful he is, but the comittee said that experts determined that he was remorseful though, so we shouldn’t trust the experts now?

        Van de Velde has fully engaged with all requirements and has met all the stringent risk assessment thresholds, checks and due diligence. Experts have stated that there is no risk of recidivism.

        Van de Velde has consistently remained transparent about the case which he refers to as the most significant misstep of his life. He deeply regrets the consequences of his actions for those involved. He has been open about the personal transformation he has undergone as a result. Since his return he has participated in major international events without incident.

        from https://nocnsf.nl/en/nocstarnsf-takes-measures-to-ensure-a-safe-sporting-environment-for-all-olympic-participants

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      4 months ago

      The problem is that people absolutely believe that.

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      4 months ago

      that doesn’t mean anyone convicted of it should just be thrown in the oubliette.

      Yes it does. I think having empathy is a good thing and most people deserve it. Not child rapists.

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              4 months ago

              No im pretty sure all child rapists are pedophiles. I do not think the 2 ideas should be separated. You make it sound like you are cool with people being pedophiles as long as they’re not a child rapist. Fucking weird.

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                Most child rapists are not pathologically attracted to children. It happens because of power imbalances or other factors.

                You can think what you’d like but pedophelia has official DSM-5 Diagnostic criteria and there’s an entire academic body of literature behind this.

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                  4 months ago

                  No, i just dont care about anything you’re talking about. All it comes off to me as you are trying to say being a pedophile is not that bad.

                  Claim whatever by whomever. Nothing now can change the fact that you are pro pedophile and thats just weird.

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                    4 months ago

                    So correcting your terminology because you are using the word pedophile to have a different meaning than what it is dictionnary defined makes me “pro-pedophile” lol.

                    By your definition Marriam-Webster, Wikipedia, and pretty much every psychomedical academic journal is “pro-pedophile” then.

                    Fuck anyone who harms children. But being attracted to children is not a choice, science has proven that. And acting like these people are all evil (even if they’ve never acted on their urges) makes then less likely to seek help because of shame, and increases the rate of children who are hurt.

                    It’d do a lot of help if you atleast skimmed the wikipedia page on the topic.

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        Wow im being down voted for being a anti-pedo. Yall are fucking weird. And sick 🤮.

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          No you’re being downvoted for being in favor of barbaric punishments instead of rehabilitation.

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            Having a less cruel mindset is what allows it to go on though. Our justice system is built by predators for predators so victims are already at a disadvantage, and the fact that anyone would want consideration for the rapist only encourages others. The whole idea of being at all lenient on child rapists is crazy to me

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              Why do you think anything less than brutal death is “lenient”

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                My sister was raped as a kid, and as long as i have known pedophiles/child rapist are the worst of the worst. There is no rehabilitation for that. There should be no opps i didnt mean to go to another country and get a 12 year old drunk and rape her 3 times, then appear to the world as the best people can provide. Its just sickienng to try and normalize or be at all lenient toward such vile acts.