• LustyArgonian@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Most SWers get paid per hour, not per client, and that ranges depending on the city, generally $500/hr on average for full service. Most are not high volume (danger goes up from both clients and authorities, which is why high volume tends to not be as intimate and tends to be in a building for that purpose, eg happy ending massages, bunny ranches. Or high volume tends to be strippers who can find clients quickly and easily). Most tend to see men mostly on weekends (demand). Even so, it’s still lucrative, can be a good side hustle, and gives you a lot of free time.

    There are other payment structures as well. I am a Dominatrix, so how I personally structure my payments are a little different and my relationships with my subs are a little different (nonsexual sex work). I’m extremely low volume, I require ongoing relationships (no one and done), I take on 1-3 subs at maximum. Because I do this, I have very high payment thresholds, which are not hourly but instead usually weekly or monthly and usually include extras like gifts, travel, apartments, etc. I also get a small amount of money through the porn/nudes I make, which are really just advertising for my Dominatrix business (I honestly do not enjoy taking nudes at all, it’s not very fun for me).

    I partially do this payment structure because of the special relationship of a Domme/sub and things like sub drop, where I may need to be “on call” and available for my subs. BDSM is trauma work, I am confident about that, and subs can be triggered and may need extra assistance afterwards. I do not think it’s ethical to do the kind of trauma work that is required in BDSM and then retraumatize them by repeating patterns of neglect and abuse. The healing part of BDSM is that the nightmare ends and gets addressed, or is transformed in some way.

    I have a pretty good life. I get to travel all over and I get to do everything I want to do. I have a ton of free time as well. I don’t think I’d enjoy being a different type of SWer but I do love being a Dominatrix a LOT. Something about telling a millionaire he’s a pathetic baby unfit to lick my feet while he’s groveling on his floor in a maid dresss really does it for me 🤌