• jebuz@lemmy.world
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        3 months ago

        No one gets to reclaim it. You’re inciting the divisiveness, it should just not be used if it has to be censored depending on who you are. It’s archaic.

        Be better.

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          Gay people get to reclaim that word from people who want to use it as a pejorative.

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            3 months ago

            Sure, but fag isn’t one. Queer at least has an actual use case scenario compared to fag. Unless you’re making an effigy or smoking in certain regions. The meaning the word has no intrinsic reason to be gated if you want it to be a real word.

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              3 months ago

              and what if my use case is self denigrating myself for the purposes of humorous shitposting. Seems perfectly appropriate in this use case as far as i can tell.

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                3 months ago

                If that’s how you get off, but not encouraged in a public space. I do it all the time. I’m not saying censor yourself around folks over this one word.

                I’m saying compared to it’s history and how it can be used, it doesn’t have much space for common talk. Queer is able to be a concept that is useful to bridge slurs. It’s able to converted into something. Fag however just had a hateful history in the internet because America.

                I’m talking about it completely objectively.

                LGBTx communities with young folks for example are those who don’t know the value and the difficulty. It’s taken for granted. The word just shouldn’t be promoted in positive light openly, but talked about it’s history openly of talked about with those you’d like to use.

                Dude why am I explaining manners and not being a bad impression on kids in private spaces/platforms.

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                  If that’s how you get off, but not encouraged in a public space. I do it all the time. I’m not saying censor yourself around folks over this one word.

                  i guess, so, but i don’t consider lemmy to be a public space in the same way i don’t consider a private institution a public place, there isn’t really a public place on the internet to begin with, unless you’re trying to appeal to the general public i guess.

                  I’m saying compared to it’s history and how it can be used, it doesn’t have much space for common talk. Queer is able to be a concept that is useful to bridge slurs. It’s able to converted into something. Fag however just had a hateful history in the internet because America.

                  i feel like this is a really regressive understanding of language, I mean sure the history of the word fag is bad and negative, but gay people are quite literally more socially accepted now than ever in society. Using the word fag. Especially as a queer person or in a context in which it would make sense is literally just ironic now. Wouldn’t this be a productive thing for society? Using a word which we once believed to be negative in an ironic way that so aggressively downplays it’s original meaning so heavily that people stop caring about it?

                  I’m talking about it completely objectively.

                  i mean sure, so am i, it’s just a word, it’s not going to stab you.

                  LGBTx communities with young folks for example are those who don’t know the value and the difficulty. It’s taken for granted. The word just shouldn’t be promoted in positive light openly, but talked about it’s history openly of talked about with those you’d like to use.

                  i mean maybe, but i feel like we should probably still be happy about what we’ve managed thus far, new generations aren’t going to behave the same, and they’re not going to experience the world the same, expecting literally anything else from them is unreasonable. If they do pick up fag again, and it’s not actively harming anybody anymore, what’s the problem? That seems like an even bigger win to me if anything. You’ve done so much work that a problem is no longer a problem, and is now even socially acceptable to the point of ironic humor.

                  eventually, you have to hand over the torch and just trust that they’ve learned best what to do.

                  also, it’s weird that you used lgtbx instead of lgbtq considering that’s what the q is for.

                  Dude why am I explaining manners and not being a bad impression on kids in private spaces/platforms.

                  idk great question lol.

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                    3 months ago

                    You equated the most open social media platform to a private institution. That’s a new take for sure.

                    Notice how you described yourself as a queer rather than just saying you’re a fag? It’s just not that useful in common speak.

                    Also did you really just say it’s okay to use a fag in an ironic way doesn’t downplay it’s original meaning, it just perpetuates a way for those naive to get hurt. Like young autistic people will struggle with these things growing up.

                    I guess ladderpulling is okay once you have what works for your needs but not other’s though.

                    Your whole ideology seems to be at conflict with itself. I stopped caring about this conversation.

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          3 months ago

          bro who cares words are words, say whatever the fuck you want where the fuck you want as long as you aren’t directly offending anyone. Keeping these words behind a pedestal does nothing but hurt everyone.

          i got into an argument semi recently over whether “pansy” was a homophobic slur, i don’t think anybody even knows that is was used as one today lmao.

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            3 months ago

            I never said don’t say it.

            I’m just saying, in public spaces or sites where kids can be. I try not to say those words? They’re impressionable and it’s just not constructive, sure they have their place in jests or lustful talk.

            I consider it manners.

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              i mean sure, but this is lemmy, not a fucking cod lobby, how many children do you think are on lemmy? There’s shit tons of porn here.

              There’s a time and place for everything, including behavior and language, an individual should be able to gauge whether they use certain words in certain places.

              sure it’s manners, but sometimes breaking manners to make a point is more important.

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                3 months ago

                I didn’t say lemmy, I fully agree about it all. However I am talking about in general.

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                  I didn’t say lemmy, I fully agree about it all. However I am talking about in general.

                  then you’re being a little presumptive about the capabilities of another person, then again this is the internet.

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                    3 months ago

                    I assume greatness for all my kin. However, nihilism runs rampant in the echo chambers of the internet.

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      3 months ago

      I don’t know, no one gets called a fag and thinks on what they did. It’s just baseless aggression, rather than communicating anything of value.

      If you have strong opinions, voice them like a man. Not like a beast growling.

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        3 months ago

        Always a good course to take. I’m only saying that the right words at the right time can make a difference. We shouldn’t fear words with a bad history if they have a useful place in the present.

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          3 months ago

          They aren’t feared, and they aren’t useful? Queer for example is still useful since it was embraced and used to define ambiguous or questioning folks. Fag is only useful if you’re asking me for a cig or you wanna make some effigies.

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      3 months ago

      For people who have every opportunity to behave and act with decency, but do not or will not: they are fags.

      So you want to reclaim “faggot” from the gay community, and turn it back into a hate slur? Get fucked, homophobe.

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      We grew out of those words for a reason. There’s a million other ways you can describe those people. I know you’re not attempting to be homophobic, but just for the sake of language, it’s crude and lazy to just use that in place of ways you could much more creatively insult somebody. That word doesn’t need to be reclaimed, and really has no value worth bringing back.

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      That is not what those words mean and you don’t get to personally decide they mean something else. We have words for those definitions already; Idiot and Asshole.