• psivchaz@reddthat.com
      26·
      3 months ago

      For a long time, I’ve just assumed this was a weird way that my bipolar and my bisexuality interacted. Is this just a normal human thing?!

      • Hellfire103@lemmy.caEnglish
        152·
        3 months ago

        You may be abrosexual, of course; but that could also be an explanation.

      • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
        335·
        3 months ago

        at least personally it’s just like how you want variety in your food, which is part of why polygamy just seems objectively superior to me

        • Badabinski@kbin.earth
          95·
          3 months ago

          do you mean polyamory? polygamy is where only the man gets to have multiple partners, and it usually comes with lots of abuse and misogyny. polyamory is sick tho, speaking from experience.

          • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
            161·
            3 months ago

            not sure where you got that from, quote wikipedia:

            “Polygamy (from Late Greek πολυγαμία polygamía, “state of marriage to many spouses”)[1][2][3][4] is the practice of marrying multiple spouses. When a man is married to more than one wife at the same time, it is called polygyny. When a woman is married to more than one husband at the same time, it is called polyandry. In sociobiology and zoology, researchers use polygamy in a broad sense to mean any form of multiple mating.”

            But i did find the term “polyfidelity” which is very precise to what i want, "a type of non-monogamous, relationship in which all members are recognized as equivalent to the other partners and comply to restrict sexual and romantic relationship activities to exclusively only other members within the group. "

            • Norah - She/They@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
              71·
              3 months ago

              I mean yeah, it means marriage to multiple people, which is illegal in most of the world. Polyamory is having multiple relationships.

              • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
                4·
                3 months ago

                and marriage to multiple people is effectively what i want, i want as many partners as we can make work all “married” to each other.

                Obviously it’s not tremendously simple to manage, but that’s the ideal. In reality you’d presumably have varying degrees of people being into each other but as long as everyone’s fine with it and no one feels limited by the group fidelity it’s fine.

                • Norah - She/They@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
                  71·
                  2 months ago

                  Personally, thanks to polygamy’s history and recency to current times, yes, I think being married to multiple people is a bad idea. I’m for keeping it illegal until we can be sure it won’t be used like that again. I don’t think now is that time.

            • Badabinski@kbin.earth
              41·
              2 months ago

              I live in Utah where we have a relatively high number of polygamists, and they’re all shit heads. My girlfriend works with a woman who was raised in a polygamist environment, and that lady went through some horrible trauma. Polyamory is the umbrella term that contains what you want, and it’s best to stick to it so that modern polyamory isn’t associated with groups like the FLDS or cunts like Warren Jeffs. Polyfidelity is more or less what my girlfriend and I practice with her other partner, so I totally understand the appeal. I’ll say that I do wish multiple marriages were possible, since it’s effectively what we want in the long run. We’ll probably have to approximate it with some form of contract or corporation.

            • Lem Jukes@lemm.ee
              61·
              2 months ago

              Again, like the other commenter, do you mean polyamory? Cause polygamy is pretty gross and literally illegal in a lot of places. So calling it ‘objectively superior’ is kind of a red flag to a lot of people.

              • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
                11·
                2 months ago

                again, if you read my reply to the other commenter, you’ll see that you’re confusing polygamy for polygyny.

                …or are you saying that several people marrying each other is gross? if so, then i’d say you’re the gross one here, what’s wrong with a group of people loving each other and wanting to be exclusive within the group?

                • Lem Jukes@lemm.ee
                  32·
                  2 months ago

                  Polygyny is a form of polygamy, the practice of one person having multiple spouses. Polyamory is where multiple people are in a cooperative romantic relationship. There is a reason all 50 US states have laws against polygamy and not polyamory.

                  At no point have I expressed thinking polyamory is gross.

  • Hellfire103@lemmy.caEnglish
    552·
    3 months ago

    We have a word for that: abrosexual.

    Here’s the flag:

    Flag with five stripes: light green, pale green, white, pale pink, and hot pink

    As you can imagine, our main in-jokes are watermelons and indecisiveness.

    There’s also a subreddit at r/abrosexual, and a community at [email protected] (although the latter isn’t very active).

    Source: I am abrosexual